Cherish Your Friends; They are Precious Commodities

I've been wanting to write an article about how important it is to be there for your friends. In this time of transition, my friends have been invaluable to me, and I have realized how much I appreciate those who have reached out to me, and been there. So much so that I have noticed when my friends have really needed me in return. We are all dealing with so much in our lives; kids, parents, college, marriages, death. Need I go on. I think you get the message. The important thing is that we must continue to be there for each other, for support when that tragedy comes along, whether it be the death of a spouse, the loss of a relationship, or the loss of a job. I know it's hard to compare one to the other, but for the person going thru the so-called tragedy, or the actual  tragedy, the sense of loss is very much the same. Being there and showing your support can be as little as just a phone call or a text, or as big as taking the time to just be with that person for a while so they don't have to be alone, and listen to whatever they want to talk about even if you've heard it over and over again. Everyone heals and deals in their own way, and on their own time schedule. Personally, I have had to realize that everyone is busy with their own stuff, and when they find the time to respond they will. Because I have so much free time these days, I take for granted that just because I call or text doesn't mean that the receiver can respond immediately, even though that's what I want. That's what we all want; INSTANT GRATIFICATION. Eventually they do respond, and if they don't and the message was really important, just send it again, as it may have gotten lost or forgotten, depending on what is going on at the moment with the other party. Remember, EVERYONE IS BUSY with something, and it's not all about you.

Part of being there for your friends is making sure they are taking care of themselves by eating right and exercising. I know some of my friends might think to themselves; "oh no here she goes again, preaching about food and exercise". Well, that's my thing. It's hard to keep my mouth shut when I see that my friends are not eating enough because they got busy, or just didn't feel hungry. We need to remember that in order to feel hungry, you must eat. Eating is what makes the body work and gets that metabolism moving. I know when I started writing about changing my eating habits I mentioned that I had to get used to eating every couple of hours even though I wasn't hungry. It took about two weeks but once my body got used to eating every couple of hours, I was quickly reminded by my stomach, it was time to eat. Try and keep snacks in your car such as nuts, and water, and grab a piece of fruit to take with you when you are leaving the house. You never know when you will need it because you got to BUSY, and forgot to eat. It's happened to me as well when I get caught up in whatever I am doing and before you know it 4-5 hours have gone by and you haven't eaten anything. Normally my stomach will tell me, and I know that is the natural progression for most of us, but if you jump start  your body with a good, healthy breakfast in the morning, and keep up with those snacks between lunch and dinner, you will feel so much better. Your body will thank you and you will want to eat. Also try and keep up with your exercise, by walking at least 30 minutes a day, and getting that heavier cardio workout a couple of times a week, to keep your heart healthy. I remember a phrase from a movie, " exercise produces endorphins, and endorphins make you happy". Just another reason to exercise when you are down in the dumps. I can't tell you how many times I was down and out and didn't want to go to the gym for any reason. I try to remember how good it felt at the end of those nights when I was coming home and thinking to myself how glad I was that I made myself go, and how much better I felt because I played some great racquetball and got to hang out with my friends at the Y. Most of the time I forgot why I was down in the first place. I would like to also stress how important it is to eat something before and after your workouts, to have fuel to burn, and replenish when you're done. Feeling light headed is a sign you have not eaten enough, and avoiding food due to a workout is not the healthy way to go, especially in the heat. One more tip is to always drink water throughout the day, to keep yourself hydrated, and once again, make that body work.

So enough healthy tips for one day. The point once again is that we all need to take care of each other and be there for one another in our times of need and just because. Be honest with each other, but try to realize when to back off due to timing, and the severity of the situation. Put yourself in your friends position and try and realize what they are feeling before you react strongly, or negatively. I have had most of my friends for a very long time and have come to value them so much more thru the years. Friends are precious commodities, not to be taken advantage of, or taken for granted. I dedicate this article to all of my friends, and you know who you are. I love you all very much!!

Living and Loving My Friends

Substitutes: Yes You Can (part 2)

I have always known that breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It gets your metabolism going and this is what makes your body work the way it should throughout the day. In order to keep your metabolism up you must continuously eat and drink as well as keeping up with physical activity.  The old adage that not eating will shrink your stomach and help you lose weight is quite the opposite.  As I said in “part one”, if you don’t eat you produce stomach acid which is painful and can cause stomach problems. About 15 years ago I was eating an orange and drinking coffee every morning. I started to notice my stomach aching everyday. The pain finally got so bad I found myself at the doctor’s office and eventually found out that I had reflux and a small ulcer. I was advised at that time how to eat to repair the damage, and keep it under control. The acid from the oranges mixed with the coffee would definitely have to change. I needed to get more substantial food into my breakfast routine: eggs, cereal/oatmeal, whole wheat bread, milk, etc. I also learned to stay away from high acid foods such as tomatoes and citrus. Yes, these are good for you, but for me it had to be in moderation to correct this problem. I also learned to eat slower which helps with overeating as you get full quicker. Another good tip was not eating less than a couple of hours before going to bed and keeping your head slightly elevated while sleeping. I took all of this information to heart, and my body started repairing itself slowly but surely.  I still have reflux but it only flares up when I have eaten too fast, or too much. I love tomatoes and they are not a problem for me anymore.  I know when I have a lot of indigestion it is usually due to not having enough food in my stomach, or eating to fast. 

So, let’s get back on track with substitutes for lunch and dinner. Bringing lunch from home is always the best way to control what you are eating, however if you don’t choose to go in this direction, like me, there are still good choices you can make. Most of the eating establishments today are much more health concious, and always have lite and healthy menu items. The key is to make those choices. If you know that you will be too easily swayed by the high fat items, choose to go to healthier places, or just bring your own food. You have to make the effort to make the right choice most of the time. Everything in moderation, as “they” say. My favorite places are centered around the good choices I want to make. Sushi is always a great choice but watch out for the fried items such as shrimp tempura, soft shell crab roll (spider), and the mayo sauces. Try to stick to the raw fish, avocados, cucumbers, edamame (soy beans), miso soup, salad, and green tea. The rice in the rolls is ok but try and keep it to a minimum. Green tea is full of antioxidants and very good for you.  Some of my other favorite places and food choices are:  Panera Bread-Thai Chopped Chicken Salad, Schlotzskys-smoked turkey on wheat, or chicken salad with lettuce, tomato, and lite mayo, or any of the salads, but be careful to choose a lite dressing with as little sodium as possible. I also frequent Gourmet Gang for the Sante Fe Chicken sandwich. I get it on a wheat wrap as opposed to the multi grain bun, and I increase the roasted red peppers, and decrease the red pepper mayo. On Saturdays I usually go to Taste Unlimited, which I have been going to since I was a child. Everyone knows how famous “Taste” is for their house dressing. The blackened tuna is the best, as well as their many healthy salads, and the fresh baked breads. My favorite place is a great mediterranean restaurant called Azars‘. I have been going there for the last ten years, at least once a week. The food is so fresh, flavorful, healthy and filling. Lots of veggies, hummus, pita and wonderful sauces. They have the best greek salad with Mama Lina’s dressing, as well as great homemade soups. The chicken soup is my favorite. The wraps are always hot and crispy with the best flavor from the mixture of spices, sauces, meats and vegetables. They have alot of vegetarian choices, including eggplant, falafel, baba ganoush, and so much more. If you like this type of food you should definitely check them out. You will not be sorry.

The main point here is just stick to what you know when making restaurant/food choices. Lots of fruits and vegetables, lean meats, chicken, fish, whole grains, wheats, and oats. You just have to apply this to the menu. Instead of white bread and pasta,  ask for wheat. When ordering a salad always ask for dressing on the side, and opt for the lowfat, fat free dressings. Watch your serving sizes. If you get a large plate of food, cut it in half and take the rest with you for later, or split it with your lunch partner.  Eat slower to get full faster and avoid overeating. Drink while you are eating as this fills you up as well.

Please keep on reading to part 3.